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Program Information
Bob Hall on
Nonviolent Sexuality™
- Excerpts from Topics Covered
Views & Reviews
On Sex and Conflict
“When you consider the way we, in this culture, have learned to deal with sexuality and conflict, there are no mysteries as to why we have massive problems with rape and sexual assault, unplanned pregnancy, AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. In fact, to a large extent we've actually set many of these problems up to happen, given the way we have chosen to deal with these two areas of our lives.”
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It is a rare occasion when we can get 690 new students to pay attention to anything and Bob had them spellbound. His approach to sensitive issues surrounding acquaintance violence was very effective with the ‘Clarkies.’ Our intention was to call to the forefront a critical issue for
all of our new students to examine and Bob's presentation facilitated this in a very
successful fashion.
Orientation Director
Clark University (MA)
On Intimacy
“Is it easy, these days, to develop intimate relationships? The answer I get on most campuses I visit is, ‘No!’ You may have heard the term ‘battle of the sexes,’ I think that to some extent that has been the case, and unfortunately, the biggest casualty in that battle has been intimacy, the connection which goes beyond the physical part of relationship.”
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Bob put forward several principal rules of dating and relationships that would make anyone’s relationships more satisfying and enduring. He had no problem holding the attention of the one hundred plus students for the entire ninety minutes. His style was engaging, interactive, and always in good taste. Bob Hall is most welcomed back at St. Vincent.
Dean of Students
Saint Vincent College (PA)
On Rape and Sexual Assault
“Even if no one in this room was ever affected by a rape or a sexual assault, just the fact that this stuff is happening on our campuses and in our communities creates an environment that all of us have to exist in. I resent the fact that someone I want to get to know better has to wonder whether or not they can get into my car, go for a walk with me, or spend some time alone with me, because someone else, somewhere down the line, gave them something to fear. Rape and sexual assault create a environment that makes it difficult for all of us to date and to get to know each other without fear.”
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Your presentation was so dynamic that after three months it is still impacting our campus community. I appreciated your efforts, insight and cooperation in making such a difficult subject approachable; you made our students want to hear about it. Again, Bob, thanks!
Director of Student Development
College of St. Francis (IL)
On Alcohol and Other Drugs
“Given the degree of discomfort we have with issues of sexuality and conflict, what better way to ease some of the tension in awkward situations than to drink, or smoke, or snort ourselves into a state where we don't have to think about what we're doing, or the effect our decisions may have on ourselves and others we care about. Alcohol and other drugs are almost always involved in creating the statistics on disease, pregnancy and force. The connection between sex and conflict in relationships and our abuse of alcohol and other drugs is clear.”
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You provide a great service to our students
and to the university in presenting a vitally important message in a way that is non-
threatening, easily understood and practical. Each year, more of our upper-class students choose to return to this orientation event and bring their friends!
Asst. Director of Student Life
LaSalle University (PA)
On American Culture
“We live in a very sex-negative and conflict-negative society at present. We learn to either avoid or ignore conflict until it blows up in our faces, or we treat it as a fight, which produces winners and losers but few solutions to problems. Where sex is concerned, we seem to be open enough about sex to exploit it and to make money off it but not open enough about it for people to feel comfortable talking and learning about this fundamental area of their lives. Wonder why we have some problems!”
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. . . a fascinating, witty, sometimes disarming
view of sexuality, conflict and just coping with the world today.
Assistant Program Director
University of Florida
Grab A Quick Look!
. . . at some shameless self-promotion and a taste of program content!
If you are interested in reading more about the Nonviolent Sexuality™ program,
below you will find a brief description of the program along with a section we call
“Views and Reviews” which features excerpts from program content seasoned with
a series of comments taken from student evaluations and staff recommendations.
“If you don’t know who you want to be in this area of your life, I guarantee you that there are plenty of people out there who would love to make those decisions for you!”
- Bob Hall
Nonviolent Sexuality™ is one of the most engaging and effective programs you will find in higher education to deal with alcohol and sexual violence issues on campus. The content is solid and research based, the language used is inclusive of all audience members, and the strategic use of humor is tastefully done.
Abstinence is addressed as a valid choice in relationships but not presented as a substitute for dealing with the realities of human sexuality and conflict. Nonviolent Sexuality deals with some sensitive issues in an entertaining and interactive manner that students find engaging and fun.
What is unique about Bob Hall is his approach to the confluence of sexuality and conflict as an opportunity for learning and growth, through direct dialogue and better understanding; rather than a struggle of one side against the other, to be won or lost through blaming and finger-pointing. It is this non-adversarial/resolution-oriented approach which has won the approval of both men and women on college campuses nationwide.
Bob’s ability to establish an almost immediate rapport with any size audience, together with a combination of role playing, a touch of humor and a continuous dialogue with his audience, creates a relaxed and interactive atmosphere which serves to lighten the mood and lower defenses toward an area of life which most of us feel uncomfortable discussing. Best of all the program challenges students to take responsibility for the way they think and behave, without preaching or threatening. Nonviolence and co-creation are the order of the day as students are invited to think for themselves about who they wish to be and what choices they wish to make in their relationship lives.
Since 1987, Bob Hall has presented Nonviolent Sexuality on over 900 campuses throughout the United States and Canada and has received virtually unanimous acclaim for his unique use of the tools of conflict resolution. Bob is a former Board Member of the New York State Coalition Against Sexual Assault and the founder of the conflict education company, Learning To Live With Conflict, Inc.
What Students are Saying . . .
“. . . he talked about a lot of issues that college students should be aware of . . . He presented them in a humorous manner that everyone could relate to. Usually when someone is discussing these subjects I tend to feel uncomfortable, but the way that he presented them made me feel right at home.”
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“I can honestly say that I truly enjoyed myself; you have an incredible talent for captivating a young audience. There are few times in life when a person can come along and completely restore your faith in humanity, and, well, men. Thanks.”
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“I think that it was important for guys to attend this program ... I’m not trying to bash all of the guys but I do feel that this was a great lesson for them.”
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“I really enjoyed this program, I thought that the speaker was entertaining and informative.”
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“I was very surprised, and yet amused, at how easy it was for him to convey his message about sex and conflict to a room full of hormonally imbalanced teenagers!”
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“This program was a little different than what I had expected ... He never really singled out one person or group of persons. Not everything was all the man’s fault or all the woman’s fault ... Communication was also important in any and all orientations ... he always referred to people as ‘male or female, gay or straight.’ Overall the program was excellent.”
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“As I walked into the program, fifteen minutes late, it was easy to see that everyone was enjoying themselves. People were laughing and talking openly to one another about the topic ... He had a unique way of making you think about something while he used humor to get his point across.”
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“When I read about the program, I expected the speaker to stand up front and lecture us with facts and be very impersonal. I was dreading walking into that room and having to sit in a chair for an hour or so and listen to some middle-aged guy talk about sex ... I was pleasantly surprised at Bob's approach to the whole conflict about sex and relationships.”
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“He added humor to make the atmosphere light and comfortable. I could definitely tell that Bob had experience talking about this topic with many young people, and not so young people ... He knew all the assumptions that we as college students had about such programs, and he definitely left us with a different impression than we had going in ... he talked about conflict and sex in a very real way.”
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“I definitely enjoyed the presentation ... Bob was a good speaker and did a good job of keeping the audience involved in the presentation rather than just lecturing. I took some interesting information with me that night, and trust me, I will definitely use it in the future.”
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